Marching For Equal Rights | Patricia Depew Wirth

Yogi Berra once said, “It’s Deja Vu all over again!” That was exactly how the Turning Point Suffragist Memorial Association (TPSMA) felt when it learned of the Women’s March on Washington, held on January 21, 2017, as it reflected on and compared it to the D.C. suffrage parade of 1913. The purpose of this grassroots rally and procession was to send a bold message to the fresh administration on its first day in office and to the world that women’s rights are human rights. Participants stood together, recognizing that defending the most marginalized among us is defending all of us to be treated equally. The TPSMA’s mission includes remaining vigilant in the quest for equal rights; participation in the march was inevitable.

The first march for equal rights ever held in D.C. was staged and orchestrated by the powerful National American Woman Suffrage Association (NAWSA) on March 3, 1913, the day prior to Woodrow Wilson’s inauguration. Suffragist Alice Paul, a brilliant strategist who understood the power of media attention, wanted to unequivocally announce to Woodrow Wilson’s administration that there was important new energy in the suffrage ranks.

The parallels between the two marches are uncanny and presumably some symbolism was deliberate: marching the day prior/after a presidential inauguration to bring equality causes to the new administrations’ attention, protesting in the shadow of the nation’s Capitol, organizing each event in a matter of weeks, including significant male participation, wearing costumes to garner attention and carrying signs to accentuate one’s cause. Demonstrators for both events were comprised of every race, ethnicity, religion, immigration status, economic status, age or disability.

In 1913 marchers came from all over the world to participate particularly countries where women had already gained voting rights. In 2017, nearly 5 million stood together in 673 sister-city marches all over the United States and throughout the world in solidarity with those assembled in Washington, DC. It was epic – a global protest for equal rights.

The TPSMA contingent on the 21st was comprised of about a dozen men and women. Several were dressed in suffragist period attire, most wore Votes for Women sashes and carried numerous signs that were voting-related. We were pleasantly surprised to see dozens of marchers dressed in suffragist garb both in person in D.C. as well as on the 11 o’clock news that broadcast clips of sister marches. This bolstered TPSMA’s resolve to ensure that a proper, national memorial be erected to honor and commemorate the millions of women who fought over seven decades to win the vote – enfranchisement: step one toward equality for women.

Attending the march was an emotional, fulfilling, awe-inspiring experience. Trying to explain the aura is like trying to explain what the Grand Canyon looks like – you had to have been there. In the morning, every Metro station was jam-packed with thousands of riders headed into Washington. In fact, it was the second highest ridership in Metro’s history. Over 1,200 buses carried the faithful from as far away as Alaska. We met and spoke to dozens on our train who had come from all over the world. Spirits were high, the mood festive knowing we were making history. Traveling from several different Metro stations our group disembarked at the Smithsonian stop on the Mall where we rendezvoused at 8 a.m.

The rally included 50 speakers and entertainers beginning at 10 a.m. from an elevated stage at Independence Avenue and 3rd Street. There were several jumbotrons strategically located all along Independence; we made it to 6th Street. The crowd continued to swell throughout the day from hundreds of thousands to nearly a million. Beginning at 1:30 the march was to kick off on Independence and culminate on the ellipse. The crowd, weary from standing many hours, began to get restless and by 2:30 chants of March! March! March! rose up making the round of voices mirror “doing the wave” in a sports arena.

The problem, of course, was that the organizers had told the National Park Service they expected 250,000 protesters and four times that many showed. We human sardines couldn’t fathom the extent of gridlock in which we found ourselves. There was simply no room to march anywhere – the entire parade route and the National Mall were packed with wall-to-wall people!

Hundreds of porta potties left over from the prior day’s inauguration lined the side streets, but it was impossible to get to them. Other than BYO, there was no food and nothing to drink. In spite of these trying conditions, the crowd was exceptionally well behaved making way for scores of wheelchairs and dozens of strollers. There was not one single incident of unruliness; respect for each other – regardless of one’s platform – was the order of the day. The bored police officers obliged marchers and took dozens of group photos to capture and memorialize this historic event.

In 1913, the suffrage procession of nearly 8,000 was not so fortunate. The onlookers consisted of nearly a half million men in town for Wilson’s inauguration. Many were drunk and rowdy and surged into the street until they had surrounded and completely blocked the parade. Men grabbed at the women, tearing at their clothing and ripping banners from their hands. Some marchers were struck in the face and spat upon; vulgar, obscene, abusive language was hurled at them. The women attempted to fight their way forward, but the police refused to protect them; hundreds were injured and required medical attention. The Secretary of War called in the 15th Cavalry from Ft. Myer and the tenacious marchers triumphantly finished the parade.

These incredible suffragists deserve a national memorial to honor what they endured to win the vote. March is National Women’s History Month; please consider making a tax-deductible donation to TPSMA. You can donate electronically on our website www.suffragistmemorial.org or send a check payable to TPSMA to 5400 Ox Road, Fairfax Station, VA 22039. For a minimum of $1,000 you can have your name or someone you wish to memorialize inscribed on the Donor Wall. Contact Ex. Dir. Pat Wirth for

further information,

pwirth@suffragistmemorial.org

703-201-3171.

In the Nick of Time | Ashley Ivey

Tony and Donna are the proud parents of three young adults. Ashley, the oldest has two siblings – Anthony Jr and April. All have all been a part of growing the family business.

“My mom believed so much in education and instilled independence in us. During summers, when she was working at home, we had the option of either playing outside or watching TV. If we chose the “watch TV” option, we had to write a paragraph summary of what the show was about. It didn’t matter what cartoon it was, we had to write. I’m convinced that is one of the reasons why I love to write to this day. “

By the time Ashley was ready for college, she was taking five college level courses, two languages and was well on her way to her dream school, the University of Miami. In February of her senior year of high school, she was diagnosed with and became disabled by a severe form of Multiple sclerosis.

Three years after her diagnosis she had endured over 70 hospitalizations, various medi-cations and treatments and tremendous symp-toms and disability with the disease. “I remember a doctor leaning over my bed and saying to my mom, ‘Ma’am I’m sorry but there is nothing more we can do.’ He said this while I was unable to walk on my own, unable to see in my left eye and could not pick up anything in my right hand. He said this while I had been in the hospital for months, hoping and praying that I would recover.

Despite what he said, I was never going to give up.” During some of the roughest times with MS, Ashley’s mother sought ways of making Ashley feel better. One time Ashley came home from the hospital her parents surprised her with a nail technician who provided her a full manicure and pedicure spa treatment. This gift meant the world to Ashley in her time of need.

Despite the disability and MS relapses, Ashley continued her education with hard work and dedication. At first as an English major, then finishing up in a physical therapist assistant pro-gram, graduating with honors. At the end of 2014, Ashley started her own business, “In the Nick of Time: The Elite Mobile Salon & Spa.” Ashley’s business provides salon and spa services to clients at their location (homes, offices, hospitals, hotels, events etc.).

In the Nick of Time and I-CARE work hand in hand, gifting full time I-CARE clients complimen-tary salon & spa services once a month. “I wanted to share this with others that would like to feel and look great but for whatever reason have limitations (time, availability, disability etc.) may not be able to conform to the regular spa environment. These services are very close to my heart since I have received them. I personally under-stand the impact feeling and looking great has on a per-son’s life, and that sometimes they can be received right when you need them, just In the Nick of Time.”

Donna M. Ivey, I-CARE Founder and CEO

“All of my kids have been W-2 employees of I-CARE since the age of 14. On their 14th birthday, they all received a birthday cake and a worker’s permit. I felt it was important for them to learn about healthcare, helping people and to learn different aspects of business ownership and management.”

Since age 14, Donna M. Ivey has aspired to make a difference in the medical field, beginning as the President of The Explorers Program at the Medical College of Ohio. Inspired by her successful leadership of over 200 students in the program, she accelerated her education, graduating at the age of 16 and launching her college career in pre-med. At the same time, Donna worked as an administrator for a neurology group, learning first-hand about neurological issues like multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s disease, traumatic brain injury, and strokes. It wasn’t long before Donna completed her degree, cum laude, in business administration

“While gaining tremendous experience working with clients that neurological issues, I had no clue I would soon need this experience in my own personal life”

In 1993, with three children and a husband who worked full-time, Donna opened up a home health care company with the mission in its name: I-CARE. Initially, I-CARE provided supplemental staffing in the areas of physical therapy, occupational therapy and speech therapy for homebound clients. After over 10 years of rehabilitation experience, I-CARE expanded, incorporating nursing and personal care assistance. Today, I-CARE provides care for individuals who need companionship, medication reminders, light meal preparation, light housekeeping, etc.

 

I-CARE, Inc., was established in 1993 with of a mission of restoring excellence in health care. I-CARE is a Virginia licensed home health care agency that provides home health nursing care service including personal care assistance and companion care. I-CARE has several added benefits including expert consulting services, home modifications and mobile salon & spa services for seniors and clients that are home bound. I-CARE is family owned and operated and was founded by Donna M. Ivey. Donna not only has a clinical background in healthcare but she also has been the primary caregiver for loved ones.

Donna’s love for helping people transcends her social and personal life. Her 35+ years of extensive healthcare experience has led her to provide consulting services for clients, family and friends. She is a leader in many civic, religious and community organizations, and speaks frequently about health insurance, ensuring clients safety at home and how family caregivers need to “breathe first,” allowing them to find happiness and rest so that they may be the best for their ill loved one. Despite all the titles Donna has: business owner, speaker, leader, Donna continues to believe that the titles of mother and wife have been the most important.

“I couldn’t fathom having a career that wouldn’t allow me to have an active and engaging impact in the lives of my children from birth through adulthood. I love being a mother more than anything else in the world.” DONNA M. IVEY

 

“Finances Interrupted” Divorce is Difficult Transition | Dianne W. Nolin, CFP

Divorce is a difficult transition for a family to undergo and women are disproportionately affected.

Separating or divorcing couples face major financial adjustments. Switching from a dual-income to a single-income household brings many financial challenges, with the biggest adjustment for women, who are likely to experience as much as a 30% decline in income.

It’s not uncommon for one party in the family to manage the finances. Only 35% of women considered themselves the primary manager of finances for their households. This leaves women feeling vulnerable when negotiating their financial future. When emotions run high, people tend to make financial mistakes.

After a divorce, most women become solely responsible for their earnings, savings, and retirement planning. This makes financial planning a critical step in the divorce process, especially during the construction of the settlement agreement.

Enter the divorce financial planner… Typically, if financial planning takes place at all, it’s after the divorce, when financial planners help individuals take stock of their finances and move forward.

Divorce financial planning, however, takes place at the start of the process, when individuals first choose to go their separate ways. With early entry into the process, divorce financial planners can provide the comprehensive and accurate financial information necessary to reach a workable financial agreement.

Uniquely qualified to make long-term financial projections, divorce financial planners integrate the methodology of financial planning directly into the divorce process. Since settlements are in large part financial, divorce financial planners can explain options, help set priorities and lead a client through the difficult choices and trade-offs ahead.

Below is a checklist for organizing yourself and your finances to arrive at reasonable outcome: Gain a clear understanding of the current financial picture:

  • Discuss and Prioritize Goals
  • Create a New Household Budget

Gain a clear understanding of the future financial picture:

  • Estimate Future Earning Potentials
  • Estimate Spousal Support Needs
  • Estimate Career Training Cost and Time Horizon
  • Project Retirement Needs
  • Analyze Insurance Needs

Focus on negotiating a fair and workable settlement:

  • Minimize taxes and expenses
  • Maximize marital assets
  • Compare After-Tax Asset Sales
  • Look at After-Tax Proposed Settlements
  • Compare and Contrast Settlement Proposals
  • Develop Alternate Settlement Proposals
  • Understand the Division of Property

Divorce financial planning increases the accuracy of financial information so that both parties achieve workable settlements quicker and accept realistic lifestyle changes when necessary. Financial settlements achieved with the help of a financial planner are less prone to problem or error. Some say marriage is about love and divorce is about money. Certainly, a divorce has long-ranging financial implications. To minimize the “interruption”, empower yourself with preparation, financial education and sound advice from disciplined professionals uniquely qualified to support you throughout the process.

Brenda Blisk, CFP® CEO of Blisk Financial Group | Senior Vice President of Spire Investment Partners
Office: 703-748-5800 ext. 5823
Toll-Free: 800-262-3458
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The Top 6 Most Common College Funding Mistakes Made by Parents | Luanne Lee, CCPRS

Misunderstanding Your EFC

The Expected Family Contribution (EFC) is the portion of your family’s income and assets that the government expects you to cover out of pocket each year before financial aid kicks in. The EFC comes from filing an annual FAFSA, the Free Application for Federal Student Aid. Unless your student qualifies for Merit Scholarships, financial aid will only cover the costs leftover above and beyond your EFC.

Many parents, when they learn what their family EFC will be, often ask if one parent should stop working to reduce the EFC. While it doesn’t make sense to earn less money to receive more financial aid, you can reduce the EFC considerably by structuring the family assets into accounts not counted on the FAFSA. Everyone should file the FAFSA!

Education Tax Breaks

The Hope Scholarship and the Lifetime Learning Credit are substantial college funding tax benefits available to many middle-class Americans. These benefits, which come in the form of a tax deduction or tax credit, can put $1,500 to $2,000 back in your pocket at tax time. The key on qualifying for these benefits depends on how you paid for college tuition the year before. Unfortunately, many parents miss out on these credits or deductions by not understanding the strategies needed to take advantage of these credits and deductions.

Not Accepting the Federal Stafford Student Loans

Every year in the spring and summer I receive calls from parents that start out: “Luanne, you don’t know me. Terri suggested we should call since you are probably the only person who could help us”. I dread these calls because I already know where this conversation is going. They have a child already in college. They have used up their personal resources to pay for college. They have just been turned down for the parent PLUS and private lender loans. They are looking for a miracle so their son or daughter won’t have to drop out of college. They usually have 2 other children at home who now have NO college funding since they used up their resources for the oldest child. The sad part is most of the time I find they turned down the offer of the Federal Student Loans. If they hadn’t turned down those loans they may have had enough resources left to finish paying for college. Why did they not accept those loans when offered on the student’s financial aid award? They didn’t want their child to have any student debt. What they failed to realize college costs have risen faster than most Americans can keep up. None of us can save enough to fully pay for college anymore. The Federal student loan program helps parents and students finance a college education for a minimal interest rate and fairly reasonable terms. Plus, I am a firm believer our kids need to have some skin in this game of paying for college!

Underestimating Inflation

According to the College Board, college costs increase on average 4-6% every year. Well over 500% since the 1980’s when you went to college! The average family can’t possibly save enough to fully fund a 4year university program anymore. With proper planning and time on your side you can take advantage of the other areas where you can save ON the cost of college that will help offset the never-ending creep of inflation.

Not Understanding Savings Options

You can save money for college in many types of financial vehicles, from a simple savings account, checking account, CD’s, stocks, life insurance, annuities, real estate, Roth IRA, 529 plan, etc. Unfortunately, not all of these accounts are created equal. Some will count against you on the FAFSA, others have fees and expenses or taxable consequences. The first step in choosing the right vehicle to save for college is to understand your options. Know the pros and cons to find the right account for your family. When it comes to saving, there is no right or wrong way, there are just some accounts that will be more efficient than others.

Using Your Retirement Funds to Pay for College

The biggest college planning mistake many parents make is using existing retirement funds to pay for college. Whether you take out a loan or cash in your retirement account, either way you are setting yourself up for retirement failure. You may have extra fees, expenses, tax consequences and lost opportunity of compounding interest. Just remember, if you don’t have sufficient funds saved for college you have other alternatives. You can borrow for college, start at a 2year college and transfer, scholarships, military, trade school, etc. Once you are ready to retire the one thing you can’t do is to borrow for retirement!

There are many other funding mistakes we could add to this list but we will run out of space. Don’t go into this most expensive time of your life with your head in the sand. Don’t follow the crowd. Know what options you have that will be right for your family.

Luanne Lee, CCPRS

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Make Your Man More Stylish | Lori Bowlin

The assumption men are clueless on style isn’t really all that true, at least not if you ask him. But we all know there is a strong likelihood the favorite guy in your life could use a few tips. Style doesn’t have to be complicated, and guys don’t have to be fashion-forward to dress well. If your guy is open to suggestions and willing to try something new, here are several ways to “up” his style.

 Throw Out the Old

It’s ok for him to hold on to that college sweatshirt to wear around the house on lazy weekends. But make sure it’s not making its way into regular circulation. A closet purge should be done at least once a year to get rid of items that don’t fit, are out of style, or are beginning to show wear.

Keep the Basics Looking Good

Take care of those items that get more use or are easily distressed. White needs to stay white; leather shoes should be polished, and collars should be uncurled.

Climb the Ladder

Take one item from his go-to outfit and trade it out for an item one rung up the ladder. For example, trade out the jeans for a pair of brushed suede 5-pockets. Or trade the t-shirt for a polo. Small changes can make a big difference.

Layer Up

Adding a layer can immediately make someone look more pulled together. A reversible vest is a great option for fall and spring. A scarf or sweater layer is great for winter. And a blazer is appropriate in all seasons.

Streamline His Fit

Gone are the days when oversize was trendy. Chances are, your guy is wearing his clothes too big. Even a big guy will look less polished when wearing clothes that don’t fit properly. Having a tailor make a few minor adjustments is sometimes all that’s needed.

Haircut Exploration

Instead of hitting the same barber, have him try going somewhere new for a cut. A different hairstyle can change his entire look dramatically.

The Extra 10%

If your guy is already pretty stylish, focus on the extra touches and investment pieces. Tie bars, pocket squares, watches and great shoes can show he really knows how to pull it together!

Work with a Stylist

Women do it all the time, but most guys don’t realize this type of service is also available for them. A lot of guys don’t enjoy shopping, so having someone work with them one-on-one at their home or office is very appealing. A stylist will take measurements and have a conversation about style and fit preference and then help build an outfit or wardrobe that reflects what they’re looking for.

Lori Bowlin, Stylist & Founder
571.236.7677
lori@the9slook.com

Spring Cleaning | Roderick Smith

After a long winter of reduced activity or inactivity, you might be tempted to get outside and train as soon as the weather improves. You may also be tempted to exercise at the same level you did at the end of the last season. But such enthusiasm often leads to early season injuries.

It’s the perfect time to reignite your motivation by breaking away from your boring gym routine and embracing the great outdoors. Kick off spring with a healthy start by getting the right gear, revamping your routine and doing some “spring cleaning”. Here are some tips for avoiding injuries as you increase your exercise this spring. Before you start any exercise regime, consult your physician.

  • Start off Slow. Prepare your body for your exercise program — especially if you used the cold weather as an excuse to become a couch potato.
  • Monitor Your Level of Exertion. Start with a slow exercise program — an easy walking regimen and a stretching routine. This will prepare you for most casual sports, like jogging, golf and tennis.
  • Increase Your Training Slowly. “A good starting point is to begin at a level that is manageable using common sense, and underestimate your ability. If you start your exercise without preparation , you put your body at risk for some form of an overuse injury.”
  • Give Yourself Some Credit. If you took the winter off, don’t expect to be back to peak fitness in a week or two. It’s ok to go slow and just enjoy being outside again.
  • Have a Support System. Having a strong support system, made up of friends, family, a coach or a strong team is an important part of living an active life!

 

There’s a lesson here: After you prepare your body for spring activities, then spend the warm-weather months healthy and active, don’t let it all go to waste by hibernating next winter. Stay strong year round, so you don’t have to start that exercise program all over again. You aren’t competing, and you aren’t burnt out yet. So just relax and enjoy your activity.

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I-CARE Project Manager | Tony Ivey, Sr.

Tony Ivey serves as the Vice President and director of operations for I-CARE, Inc. He moved to the Northern Virginia area in 1987 after graduating from Oklahoma State University with a B.S. in Engineering Technology.

In 1993, Tony, a project manager by trade, took some time off from his management responsibilities in the private sector to assist I-CARE in documenting compliance to state regulations that allowed the company to become a licensed home health organization in Virginia.

Throughout the 90s, Tony continued to help Donna establish and manage I-CARE while still working in his field outside of the home. When Donna decided to create a home office, Tony constructed and created a beautiful office out of their large basement suitable to fit 3-4 employees. Tony has also constructed custom assistive devices for clients.

Donna saw the talented attributes Tony had, and asked him to come work for I-CARE full time in 2002. Tony not only brought his construction management background, but also his financial, human resource and organizational skills.

In 2004 when Tony, & Donna’s daughter became physically disabled with Multiple Sclerosis, Tony transformed their living room into her bedroom. There, she would have enough room to navigate her wheelchair and other assistive devices. Tony understood it was also important to have Ashley on the first level of their home for safety reasons. Later, he worked with contractors to install a chair lift in their home so that Ashley had the option of going upstairs, as well as ramps to make transporting Ashley easier.

Utilizing his medical experience from I-CARE, Tony was able to expertly help his two parents who Alzheimer’s.

Tony realized his skills and experience could be used to help clients who wanted to stay at their home safely. Tony also provides livability safety assessments for clients. Homebound clients request his services when they need a trustworthy person to install stair lifts, shower benches, ramps and home additions that allow clients to stay in their home. Tony vets all contractors and manages the entire project, ensuring all clients needs are met.

Fusion Academy Loudoun County

Fusion Academy will open campuses in Loudoun, VA and Rockville MD In September 2017, in addition to their Alexandria VA, Washington DC, and Tysons Corner VA existing campuses Fusion is a revolutionary learning community that builds personal relationships and customized education solutions for every student. Serving grades 6 through 12, Fusion’s individualized teaching methodology unlocks students’ academic potential while also creating opportunities for emotional and social growth. Following the successful opening of three campuses in the D.C.-metro area last year, Fusion is expanding with fourth and fifth local campuses to meet the increased demand for high-quality and unique educational options.

“One-to-one, relationship-based teaching echoes the way we have educated our next generation of students throughout most of human history,” said Jeremiah Hakundy, Head of School at Fusion Tysons. “It seems revolutionary by today’s standards, but it’s also the most natural way to educate. We can precisely meet students of all capabilities where they are currently, as well as provide truly individualized instruction with meaningful connections, support, and genuine understanding. We are able to catch students up on content, accelerate to the next level, and foster a nurturing and successful environment for students for whom the traditional classroom is holding them back for whatever reason—including social and learning differences, highly gifted and twice-exceptional students, and students and families who benefit from flexible scheduling.” The Alexandria location is led by Lori Lank-ford, a University of Tennessee graduate and experienced education administrator. Lori’s passion is developing, implementing, and supporting programs that provide exceptional academics and a well-rounded educational experience.

The Alexandria location is led by Lori Lankford, a University of Tennessee graduate and experienced education administrator. Lori’s passion is developing, implementing, and supporting programs that provide exceptional academics and a well-rounded educational experience. Tysons campus is led by Jeremiah Hakundy, a Harvard graduate and experienced teacher and education administrator. Fusion offers flexible scheduling to meet the growing demands students face outside of school. At Fusion, homework is completed in the Homework Café® on campus, and no work goes home at the end of the school day. This enables students to spend quality time with family and friends while simultaneously making sure they receive the instructional support they require to complete assignments. “Having worked with adolescents for almost a decade in both educational and therapeutic settings, I have witnessed firsthand how focusing on individuals’ strengths and contributions

At Fusion, homework is completed in the Homework Café® on campus, and no work goes home at the end of the school day. This enables students to spend quality time with family and friends while simultaneously making sure they receive the instructional support they require to complete assignments. “Having worked with adolescents for almost a decade in both educational and therapeutic settings, I have witnessed firsthand how focusing on individuals’ strengths and contributions leads to students’ emotional and academic success,” said Rachel Bailey, parenting specialist and consultant. “Fusion’s emphasis on respect-based teacher-student relationships, as well recognizing each student’s unique qualities is refreshing, and I am confident that it will be effective in helping many students meet their potential. I am excited to see a variety of learners in our area benefit from their presence in our community.” The Fusion Loudoun campus will be located at 19307 Promenade Drive, Leesburg VA 20176. Fusion Academy was founded in San Diego, CA, more than 20 years ago out of frustration with the status quo in traditional K-12 schools. Fusion’s one-student-to-one-teach-er model proved to unlock academic potential while opening opportunities for emotional and social growth.

The Fusion Loudoun campus will be located at 19307 Promenade Drive, Leesburg VA 20176. Fusion Academy was founded in San Diego, CA, more than 20 years ago out of frustration with the status quo in traditional K-12 schools. Fusion’s one-student-to-one-teach-er model proved to unlock academic potential while opening opportunities for emotional and social growth.

To enroll your child at Fusion today, or for more information, visit www.FusionAcademy.com or call (855) 826-4355 to speak with someone regard-ing the Loudoun campus.

 

Has Anyone Here Seen My Sex Drive? | Dr. Gloria Ivey-Crowe

 


Although women aren’t usually out asking to find theirs, many a partner is asking that questions to themselves. This question however, applies to both men and women. Your libido or desire for sex is affected by emotional, spiritual, physical, psychological factors. Some of these factors affected your libido indirectly and directly while in the womb.

So really what stars have to line up for you to be ready to go at a moment’s notice. Well, for females and I’m sure Steve Harvey has hit on it in one of his books, most women don’t just respond at the drop of the hat or dare I say draws, pants, boxers or whatever. We are emotional beings 99% of the time and require some emotional stage setting before the flame is put on simmer. We want to be stroked psychologically, emotionally and physically.

Intelligence is a turn-on for most persons of either sex. So a good place to start.

Making that person feel special on a regular basis and doing nice things “just because I love you” and not because its a birthday or anniversary gets brownie points too. But whoa, wait a minute before we get to this point you’ve got to remember that my upbringing, my parents, my surrounds, all that and a bag of chips impacted me in ways that I may not even recognize. For those of us who are not MILLENNIAL but BABY BOOMERs where we were raised and by whom most definitely affected our desires. Being exposed to theology as a Baptist, Pentecostal, Catholic, Lutheran, Muslim shaped our first views on our body as well as intimacy or the lack thereof. Just think if our parents found it hard to talk about our body parts, our menstrual cycles, any discussion was taboo. Thus how many grew up thinking it was dirty and didn’t say the work sex until well into adulthood. “Intercourse” sounded cleaner right? So being raised with a moral compass from the South, everything was planned, missionary position and no exploration of anything else was done. Men were the aggressors and women were docile and waited to be told when the man was ready. Keeps your libido in check uh . . . Men had porn magazines and videos; women had . . . I don’t know besides the ones who were considered “ladie of the night” nobody else had any real experience to compare. If you were on your cycle that gave you an excuse not to and pregnancy gave you an excuse not to as well.

For those who didn’t like their bodies and who felt ugly inside and out, no doubt they wouldn’t be having any fuel to light the fire. But truly how one thinks plays such a vital role in their perception of life and others. There are people who are considered hyposexual . There is no real desire for sexual activity at all. As opposed to the person who is hypersexual ; who desires sex all the time. Both can be disorders affecting a person in their early years and becomes more problematic when they are in more serious relationships. Low libido is not considered hyposexual but a decrease desire which in most cases can be altered by solving the underlying problem.

Remedies

For many of these, lifestyle changes and modifications are easy remedies. But for many easier said than done. For low hormones, supplementing hormones with creams, gels, or pellets will do the trick. For those factors that affect our psyche they will require the help of a therapist along with medications. For the menopausal women the discomfort she experiences can be remedied with the use of lasers ( THERMIVA or MONA LISA) . Three monthly 15-30 minute sessions, I say worth their weight in gold. The pink pill was a bust and not helpful for the average women. It may prove helpful for the hyposexual arousal disorder person but not most low libido patients. However, the blue pill along with Cialis has served the men well.

So many women come to their appointments and I ask how’s your sex life. The non verbal speaks way before words come out of their mouths. I say he didn’t sign up to end having pleasurable time with his wife in her 40s and up. Haven’t you guys heard that STDS are highest in nursing homes among the elderly. Somebody is doing something? Men what are you willing to pay for themselves upwards of $100s of dollars if it will get them back in the game. Women are willing to just let it ride, do nothing and go to sleep Ladies why not invest in you and give us a call to see how we can help.

Sounds like a lot to maneuver around but YOU’RE WORTH IT!!!

 

Women Physicians of Northern Virginia

46179 West Lake Drive
Suite 350
Sterling, VA 20165

For more information call 703.463.9568
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